Well, you know that stuff doesn’t work in the real world.?
That’s the problem when you start working on improving yourself in any way. You always have naysayers. The naysayers are the people who don’t believe they can do anything to improve their skills in their business. I will share with you why the naysayers say these types of things and want to hold you back.
So I had a client who told me this story about one of the senior people inside their company. He shares with this senior staff member the stuff he’s working on and the coaching he’s doing with me to grow his business. This is when the senior staff member say’s “Well, you know that stuff doesn’t work in the real world.” Nice encouragement, huh?
I know this senior staff member, and so I share a story of when this senior staff member was part of a group I was leading one day. I have an exercise where I ask people to rank themselves on a 1 to 10 scale on what they think they’re really worth as a person. 1 is the rank that means they’re worth absolutely zero, and 10 is the rank that means that they’re perfect. So when I share with people that 10 is being perfect, I know what is typically going to happen.
On average, most people rank themselves on that 1-to-10 scale at about a 6 or 7. So this senior staff person ranked themselves as a 6, and then I ask the following question. “Okay, so here is the next question. For those who have children, where would you rank your child on a 1-to-10 scale? On a 1-scale, they are worth zero, and on a 10-scale, they’re perfect the way they are. Where do you rank them?” Almost 100% of the time, everybody goes, “Well, they’re a 10.”
Then my next question comes, “Okay, we’ll think of this then. Think of your mother, and there you are as a brand-new baby. How do you think your mother ranked you? Do you think she made you a 10 also because you were perfect in her eyes?” Almost 100% of the people again will answer, “Well, yeah, of course, she did.” Then I say, “All right. So where along the way do you lose your value” How do you go from a 10 to a 6? How do you go backwards in value as a person?
The majority of any audience always has a look on their face of, “Oh crap, he’s right.”
So getting people to start thinking about that, and the fact that you don’t lose your value, it’s that you let society beat it out of you. You let society determine your worth and value instead of you determine your worth and value.
So as I shared that story with my client, it started to open his mind about why the senior staff person said what they said. Because what’s the consequence to them if when my coaching really does work for my client? Well, the bar gets raised. The senior staff person will have to work harder. They can’t hide. And if the senior staff person is truly a slug or somebody that is not a high performer, they’re going to be exposed. So, of course, the low performers and the average performers don’t want to be exposed. They want to hide.
A friend of mine owns his own construction business. He was a former union employee and also a former Marine. He expects a lot out of himself and the people around him. He decided to start his own business because of how the union protected the average performer instead of encouraging them to raise the bar. They protect the weak or the real average people, and high performers are not encouraged. This is a perfect formula to ensure mediocrity. Mediocrity is the death of your small business and any company, for the matter.
I can remember playing football and working my butt off in college before getting injured. One day some teammates said to me, ‘Hey, take it easy. You’re making us look bad.’ I was stunned. You’re there to give it 100%, or so I thought. So society as a whole does not want you to give 100% because you know what? That raises the bar and makes everybody else work harder.
So keep that in mind. As you get around people that want to stomp on your dreams or tell you the things you’re doing are not the right things, you’ve got to have to learn to ignore them. Your goals have to be so strong, both on paper and in your head, that nothing else matters. You know, I’m saying that within reason. Don’t say that nothing else matters like your family, but other people’s opinions do not matter. You believe in yourself, not in what the naysayers have to say, because the average person is weak. And for you to truly become the person you’re capable of, you’ve got to be strong.
So, that’s a wrap, that’s a mindset. Use this information to break away from the naysayers.
So go conquer and take some action. Start working towards a more effective mindset and ignore the naysayers because you are a 10 in my book.