You are what you think? Believe it or not, thinking positively makes us happier.
Early evidence is in “Psycho-Cybernetics” – a book written by Maxwell Maltz in which Maxwell provided numerous examples of people thinking themselves into unhappiness.
Similarly, who remembers The Secret? The book and TV movie made positive thinking and the law of attraction the path to success.
Let’s have a look at how to train yourself to see the glass half full, not half empty.
Make a Conscious Decision to Change Behaviour
Change has to come from you. No one can make you do anything as the saying goes You can force a horse to water, but you can not make it drink.
Therefore if your goal is to be a successful business owner, chief executive, technical specialist, or something else in your career, you need to work on how you think and act. Discard limiting beliefs and actions and make a conscious decision to change your behaviour.
Remember, the choice is yours as to what you achieve, whether it is a conscious decision or not. Are you asking for good things to happen, or are you visualizing doom and gloom and failure? Start reprogramming yourself for success with positive affirmations.
If you are prone to think, negative thoughts repeat positive affirmations to re-programme your brain into successful behaviour. You may have picked up the negative outlook on life from parents or people that were very influential in your earlier years, so you need to rewire your brain to have positive thoughts.
The first thing to do is be aware that you are actually thinking more negative than good. Once you are aware, you will be able to catch yourself in the act and instead think of something positive. What can help you achieve awareness of your thoughts is meditation.
Mediation is the gateway to your subconscious brain.
To achieve a meditative state, focus on a word, phrase, object or even just your breathing.
The action of repeating words or phrases repeatedly or just listening to your breathing for a few minutes a day focuses your mind on less activity, i.e. shutting out the constant chatter and noise of thoughts. It can help overcome self-defeating behaviours, thereby reducing stress, tension, anxiety, etc., and improving self-understanding and acceptance.
Mediation is a choice, and you can do it for 5 to 10 minutes a day or longer, whatever suits you. Another action you can take is to use visualization.
Visualization has helped many people achieve their goals. The theory is that visualisation helps stimulate both sides of the brain, not just one. Some people keep diaries of their dreams to remind them of their goals. This tool can be used to visualise the object or lifestyles you desire.
It is worth reflecting on what you have done that had a positive outcome and a negative one. It is important not to fret about this but to become aware of the success and focus in that direction.
While walking home from work each day or exercising, reflect on the positive things achieved during that day and smile.
If you cannot move your mind away from negative thoughts, it is important to get help. Firstly you need to find out what is holding you back and then decide what help you require. There is a lot of information online and professionals who specialise in breaking habitual thinking and negative behaviour.
The other option is a business coach or mentor who will help you set your goals and keep you on track.
Ditch your Old Friends
The old saying success breeds success is true. It is important to break away from negative people and meet more like-minded souls. To achieve this, you could attend seminars, listen to motivation podcasts, do visualization and affirmation exercises.
Some people survive, and other people will thrive. To thrive, you will need to programme your brain to win.